Not long ago I was ask to define what I believe to be my role as a Pastor/Elder's wife. The following is my answer to that question.
About 15
years ago I had a head injury that led to me having to reevaluate who I was and
am.
What I
discovered was that I had a wrong idea about who I was. I thought I was: Kat
the wife, Kat the Mom, the Sunday School teacher, the worship leader, the choir
member, etc…
When the
injury happened I wasn’t able to do most of those things, and any of them very
well. For Years! I spent many days
literally on my face in my kitchen floor crying out to God. Through that experience God has taught me
that I am NOT the things that I do. And
that MOST importantly who I am is His child.
I realized
that even being Gene’s wife and my children's mom is all dependent
on and greatly influenced by, my relationship as daughter to the King of Kings.
When that relationship is progressing and good, all of the other relationships
and roles in my life are more Kingdom honoring.
When I allow other things to get ahead of my relationship with Jesus Christ,
everything else in my life suffers.
Ephesians
5:8-10
"For you
were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of
light (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and
truth) and find out what pleases the
Lord."
I hope to
live as a child of the Light who spends my life finding out what pleases my
Father.
So in light
of this, I see my role: to be an encourager out of the overflow of my
relationship with Christ and to live as transparently as I know how. (You will
never have to wonder what I think, just ask.) I believe that if I can
encourage, extend grace, live with joy, live at peace (as much as it depends on
me), be a faith-full woman and to love people to the best of my ability then I
will be fulfilling my calling as a wife, mom, pastor's wife, AND for any other adventure that God may have for me.
